Monthly archives: April, 2017

What makes tinder so addictive?

Surprisingly, Tinder can be a psychological addiction, that has nothing to do with finding a date or hook up. It’s designed like a mobile game to keep you hooked and coming back. Furthermore, it plays on the human need to be liked, says the online dating expert Dating Advisor.

There are a couple of types of addicts when it comes to Tinder.

  • The Shallow Person – this person actually uses the app like it is supposed to be used. They swipe based on if they are attracted to your pictures and what you put on your profile.
  • The Right Swiper – this person swipes right on everyone. They have their settings set to their preferred age range and location, but swipe right no matter how the other person looks or what their profile says. These people are looking for an ego boost and people to talk to.
  • The Social Media Addict – these people are easy to spot. They have all of their social media accounts listed on their profile and use tinder just to get more Instagram likes and twitter followers.
  • The Attention whores – these people know that they are attractive and use Tinder for compliments and ego boosts. They’re not looking for anything serious, and if they are, they won’t stay for long. The call of compliments from strangers is too strong for this type. This type of user may not be model hot, but seek attention in the form of constant talking.

But in reality anyone can become addicted to Tinder. Nearly everyone gets an ego boost from seeing that “you’ve got a new match” popup and it can be exciting to meet new people. Tinder makes it easy to meet various people and go on many dates within the short span of a week. Imagine you are in Dublin over the weekend. With Tinder you can have sex in Dublin those days, no question.

Just the high from getting to know a new person, or multiple new people, is a rush that is enough to make Tinder addicting. It doesn’t help that the app is designed to be similar to Candy Crush or other mobile apps that waste your time.

Just the swiping paired with the ego boost from new matches is enough to bring any common user back. Even if you don’t chat with those matches. It’s simple: Tinder can be addicting to even the most casual user. Then there’s those poor souls who can get lost for hours on end within the simple design of the app.

Best places for the first date: Wine Bar or cinema?

First dates after online dating are an exciting experience. They are an opportunity to get to know a new person, the chance to talk to someone face to face, and in the age of talking online weeks or months before ever meeting, it’s often times your first time actually meeting the person. These are pretty exciting things, but the real reason first dates are so important is because it provides you with the occasion to figure out if you want to keep talking to this person or not.

Filled with small talk

First dates should be filled with small talk, playing 21 questions, and getting to know the person you are seeing. You cannot do this at a cinema. When people go to the movies they go to see a movie that they are excited about or go to make out. Talking in the cinema is rude and can get you thrown out! Unless you’re just looking to hookup, the movies are a horrible idea for a first date. There is very few situations when the cinema is a good option for first dates.

Worry about picking a movie

Wine bars are the better option because you can meet in a casual setting. You don’t have to worry about picking a movie you will both like, you can chat without upsetting the entire building, and you are face to face – which provides a more relaxed situation for getting to know one another, wether the purpose is an one night stand or not. You could just have sex in London or, or get into a relationship. Movies should be put off until the 3rd date after you’ve had a chance to get to know if you can stand silently sitting beside the person or making out for two hours. Use your first date to find out if you want a second date, not to place yourself in uncomfortable silence with a person you want to get to know!